Intervention...

I have a student this year, he's 5 years old. He has been diagnosed with ADHD. He also has many of the major and minor signs of autism. We noticed this when he started with us in September. He is highly intelligent in specific areas-(numbers, letters, shapes), lines objects up-(cars are a big one) repeatedly and then doesn't do anything with them, will do the same thing for hours, does not handle transitions well, eye contact is minimal at best, does not understand verbal instructions, cannot generalize at all, everything he learns is basically through rote memorization and has pretty much no meaning to him, he cannot handle having his hands or arms touched, his fine and gross motor skills are poor and showing very little improvement, he is very clumsy, and probably the biggest one, his social skills are extremely delayed. He does not seem to understand social cues, obvious and subtle. Like if a child tells him no, he will do it anyways and then not understand when the child gets mad at him. He will just reach over and grab something out of another kids hand and not understand why it was wrong. He will get into kids faces all the time, yell out things at inappropriate times, etc.

We've been trying to work with him, but when you have a child where nothing generalizes from one situation to the next and it has no meaning to him, it is very hard to explain things and teach appropriate behavior from inappropriate behavior. I have talked to my supervisor about my concerns, and she agrees that he does have autistic tendencies and needs to be evaluated by a specialist. My supervisor has been talking to the mom and dad about getting him tested-(this is a very slow process because mom and dad are against the idea that something is wrong with their child-case in point, they're 3 year old has perfect hearing but does not talk-not one single word-and they just took her to the Dr. for it 2 weeks ago) Our boss, however, is another story. She basically wrote us off and told us that it wasn't our problem. The staff at the center is basically frustrated with him-(he is definately not an easy child to work with day in and day out)-and a few of the younger teachers just flat out won't work with him at all. Which puts more pressure on the other teachers because we have to pick up the slack.

I don't know what to do. I am not in a position to talk to his mom about it because I am an assistant teacher. My supervisor, as I said, has been trying to talk to his mom about getting some kind of intervention but right now it's pretty much at a stand still. I see this kid struggling every day to just comprehend the basic routine that we have had since he started. After 5 months he just doesn't get it. I'm worried that he is going to get into an elementary school and then just be pushed through because nobody wants to deal with him--but he tries so hard to 'do it right'-he's just not sure what 'right' is. In addition to that, elementary schools aren't required to test for delay's until 3rd grade, and if a parent wants testing done earlier-they have to pay for it, and it isn't cheap. This kid needs intervention now, not in 4 years. I'm really having trouble with this because I know something is going on with him and he needs intervention but I'm walking a very fine line with my boss right now as it is, so throwing this into the mix is almost sure to get me less hours at work--which, as selfish as it sounds, I really can't afford right now. So, what do I do?